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Feelings & Thoughts Evolve
I am so overwhelmed and scared. I might be pregnant. I’m in a new relationship with a wonderful man. I have two older kids; their father abandoned me.
I need to know if I am really pregnant. Three at-home pregnancy tests tell me that I am – but they could be wrong. If I am pregnant I’m too afraid to have another abortion. The abortion I had a few years ago was a really bad experience. But can I have another son/daughter? How will my boyfriend feel about a baby? I am so overwhelmed.
So, I Googled for answers on the internet and I found the Pregnancy Counseling Center. I came here to have an accurate clinical pregnancy test. The test is positive. Now I know for sure, but my thoughts and feelings are still a whirlwind. The nurse invites me to come back in two weeks for an ultrasound to make sure the baby is in the right place and to get a better idea of exactly how far along I am.
My boyfriend is so excited about the baby! He came with me to the ultrasound appointment. One of the doctors that the Pregnancy Counseling Center referred me to gave me the vitamins I needed and I feel so much better about everything.
Several months later:
My son is beautiful. I can’t believe I thought about abortion. Yes, we have some financial issues, but people around me love the baby and have stepped in to help with babysitting and more. The staff and volunteers at the Pregnancy Counseling Center were so supportive during my pregnancy, and now that my son is born, they continue to help us with supplies and caring counseling.
What Will Your Story Be
So, you're pregnant and you're panicking. You’re scared, you feel hopeless....you don't want to tell anyone, but you need to tell someone. You're asking yourself all kinds of questions - Will he stay with me? What will my mom say? Will my parents kick me out? Can I finish school? Can I do this?
On the other hand, you're asking yourself - Can I have an abortion? Will we break up? What will my mom & dad think when they find out I had an abortion? Will God forgive me? Will I forgive myself? Will my baby forgive me? You may also be thinking you have a friend who had an abortion - Did she get over it? Is she really OK? Does she regret it? Where do I go? Who can I talk to?
I know all those thoughts and feelings. I was pregnant at 18 years old. I panicked, I had two older sisters who had already had babies out of wedlock...and here I was following in their footsteps. I didn't want to disappoint my mother and be her third daughter not married and pregnant!
That was in 1982, we were told "its not a baby, it's a blob, it's just tissue". Back then I didn't know of any pregnancy counseling centers. I finally told my mom, and much to my surprise she didn't freak out. She told me to take one day at a time....and that's what I did. It was hard and embarrassing, to be pregnant at eighteen and unmarried. People would ask all kinds of questions and then look at me with "that look of disapproval".
Here's the deal - it was very difficult, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend, I didn't get the man or the marriage or the ‘picket fence’....but I did get Matthew! You see, as hard and scary as it was....I didn't die from it! I lived through it, and so did Matt.
So that's my story. What will your story be? What will your baby's story be?
You matter. You are valuable. Please, I'm begging you, be informed. Come into the PCC and ask us any question about abortion, let us give you a free ultrasound to see exactly where you're at, and if the pregnancy is viable. If you're going to make this decision, KNOW what will actually happen!
They have been best friends for years, share all their secrets with each other, and do practically everything together. They attend the same junior college, share the same goal of finishing school, and hope for successful careers. They felt unstoppable and carefree until today.
Together they arrive at the Pregnancy Counseling Center, scared and confused, both fearing that they might be pregnant. Neither one feels ready to be a mother. Neither one has the support of her boyfriend. Neither girl expects any help from her family. Amid tears and anxious hand holding, they await the results of their pregnancy tests.
One girl “Felicia” is pregnant; her best friend “Deborah” is not. “This is so unreal, I just knew it would be me,” says Felicia. She is leaning towards abortion, but knows she will feel badly about it.
An ultrasound is performed, and the moment Felicia sees her baby’s heartbeat, the pregnancy becomes real. She asks for her best friend, Deborah, to join her in the room.
“Oh my... is that your baby?” Deborah exclaims when she sees the monitor. “It’s really a baby,” she says softly. After the ultrasound, Felicia says she can no longer consider abortion. In this safe and caring environment at the PCC, Felicia is able to hear and see the truth, and choose life. Her best friend hugs her, and pledges her help and support.
Felicia will not be alone. Along with her best friend’s help, she will also have the full support of everyone here at the Pregnancy Counseling Center. Doctor referrals will be provided so she can begin prenatal care, and we promise to help her with monthly material assistance.
These best friends leave the PCC as two young women who have been profoundly changed by today’s shared experience.